When I saw this video, I cried…
There are certain circumstances that can knock us down. Life throws us challenges: a move to a new home; a change in career; an unexpected death in the family; an illness; a divorce. We don’t always know how to find resilience after setback or how to get back up after big losses, but I hope this video gives you some inspiration to do it… to get back up and move forward. In fact, resilience after setback is something we all deserve to build.
An important part of getting back up is discovering ways to regain your self‑confidence so that when life knocks you down, you can rise with clarity, inner strength, and trust in yourself rather than dread of past failures.
Feelings like sadness, grief, disappointment, frustration, and grief can overwhelm us. I know… I’ve been there! However, finding resilience in the aftermath of setback truly requires acknowledging these emotions and learning how to work through them.
Do You Feel Alone?
Going through a major life transition often leaves us feeling alone. Well-meaning friends and family can give us wonderful support, but it’s not always what we need and we can end up feeling more alone than ever. If this is your experience, you’re not alone (no pun intended). If you’ve moved, changed your career left a relationship then you have a lot to deal with. Your surroundings may have changed. The people you trusted and counted on may not be available in the ways you need them. You might need a new support system, and that is completely and totally normal and expected! With support, your resilience after facing a setback can really grow.
Prepare Yourself!
I know it’s not as easy as saying, “Just do blah, blah, blah!” You may know what needs to change. You may know what you need to do differently, but you may not be in a position to create the pathway to a better future. The woman in the video trained to run that race. She trained to win. She had a coach and practiced every day to improve.
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Take some time and create a plan – a step-by-step plan that gets you hooked into community gets you the support you need and holds you accountable for taking decisive and strategic actions to get back on top of your life. It may be a struggle. You may get out of breath feeling overwhelmed, but you can do it. Rest assured, resilience after a major setback is possible if you stay committed.
Here’s how you can reinvent yourself and move toward a better future. With each and every action you take, ask yourself, “Will this keep me stuck in the past or will it propel me to the future I desire?” Ask this question for what you believe – do you need to change your beliefs? As this question for what you tell yourself in your internal dialogue – do you need to have a strong boundary with yourself to change how you talk to yourself? Remember, resilience after setback often starts with the questions you ask yourself on the journey.
Choose who you will invite in as your support team. Who are your coaches and cheerleaders? Is there someone you can complain to—someone who won’t let you get away with it but also won’t make you feel bad about yourself? Who will hold you in your highest, guide your every step, and keep your heart in sacred trust? Having trusted allies is a key step toward greater resilience after setback.
I will!
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