How we interpret the events in our lives determines our experience, often aligning with key principles like the law of choice. How can this be true? Let me give you an example.
My mother left when I was a teenager, she left without saying, “Goodbye.” I interpreted her leaving to mean that I was insignificant. I felt as if I didn’t matter and was unworthy of her time and attention. The belief that I created in my own mind, led to a life in which I felt very insignificant. To avoid feeling insignificant I created situations in which I was a key player. I didn’t want to feel those old wounds and so I avoided them like the plague. Unfortunately, I still felt insignificant, and nothing I could do filled the wound.
The only thing that shifted my experience was integrating the choice that we have according to the law. Once I stepped out of an automatic negatively created interpretation, I was able to consciously create an empowering interpretation of these painful events. Choosing your interpretations of the events in your life is a very powerful step toward healing your heart.
There is no better way to empower yourself than to view the circumstances of your relationship through the perspective of the law of choice.
We make hundreds of choices every day. Are they conscious?
You make hundreds of choices about how to spend your money, how to turn left or right all day long. You choose what books to read and you choose which shows to watch on television. The amount of choice that is available to you is insurmountable. Life is a matter of choice.
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Why would it not be true also for your thinking? You decide what to think about what has happened to you—what it means about you. Often, you look outside of yourself for what to believe about yourself and the events of your life. When a relationship ends, you’re faced with a potpourri of choices, all filtered through a love or fear mindset. You can choose to believe that the ending of your relationship is the worst thing that ever happened to you—or the best. I’d like to support you in making a powerful interpretation of the ending of your relationship, one rooted in a love or fear mindset that chooses love. An interpretation that opens the door to a life beyond what you can currently comprehend—a life filled with peace, love, and fulfillment.
When you’re faced with a potpourri of thoughts about what a relationship ending means, your interpretation matters. As you choose empowering meanings, you also learn to take responsibility in relationships — owning your part in how you think, respond, and grow — which is one of the most powerful steps toward true healing and connection.
Choose your thoughts carefully in line with the law of choice!
I love the work of Byron Katie because she is able to zero in on how our thoughts dictate our behavior. We will either choose to think thoughts that limit us or that expand us. We will choose thoughts that empower us or disempower us.
